Susan Allan, America 's leading Divorce Coach and author of “Ask The Love and Relationship Coach” and “Ask The Divorce Coach” columns has a proven track record with a 99% success rate in transforming marriages, even when they are on the verge of divorce! Susan Allan has created Coaching Packages to enable clients to produce the most peaceful and successful relationships possible, even if they decide to divorce.

The Marriage Forum, Inc. A 501 C 3 Corp. based in California

Individual and Family Coaching Pricing

The Heartspace© System for Love, Marriage, Intimacy, Divorce, Parenting, & Career Success

Featuring the Healing Matrix of the Heartspace© System,
Herrmann Brain Dominance Whole-brain Thinking™, & Nonviolent Communication®

In-person & Telephone coaching worldwide since 1999

The benefits of Heartspace™ System of Coaching include new tools and skills that generate new results. When you learn Goal-reaching skills© and you set goals, reaching them, you will also learn the entire system that generates these results:  

  • Inner peace so that you can focus on RELATIONSHIP SOLUTIONS
  • Logical analysis of relationship challenges so that you now see  PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS
  • Overview of the big picture of your relationships leading to CREATIVE SOLUTIONS
  • Practical step-by-step planning that leads to SAFE SOLUTIONS

$2,200 per Coaching Package: 12 hour-long phone sessions once or twice per week; you will be calling Susan Allan in California, Pacific Time

Please let us know if you prefer to purchase your Coaching Package as 2 Half Coaching Packages $1,200 per Half Coaching Package: 6 hour-long phone sessions once or twice per week.

 For Family and Divorce Mediation Services please email to learn more about The Divorce Forum SM Collaborative Model

  • Worldwide telephone coaching Monday- Friday 9 a.m. -7 p.m. PT and weekends by request and if there is urgency
  • 30 pages of testimonials available
  • Certified mediator of The Los Angeles County Bar Association.
  • America’s leading Marriage & Divorce Coach and offering Marital Mediation©
  • Expert in Compassionate Communication SM, Nonviolent CommunicationSM
  • Certified in Herrmann Brain Dominance™ offered at The Wharton School and at 90% of Fortune Companies
  • Creator of The 6 Part Conversation©, How to Avoid Divorce©; The Tantric Lock©; Miraculous Marriage©; Marital Mediation©; 7 Plateaus of Peace©; 7 Stages of Divorce©; Goal-reaching Skills©; When Hope & 12 Steps are Not Enough© and numerous other trainings
  • Workshops for corporations and groups including The Association for Conflict Resolution, the premiere conflict resolution organization in America; Extraordinary Events, Statmon Corporation, The  Pasadena Police Department’s Youth Leadership Program, the California Correctional & Rehabilitation Department’s M.ER.I.T. Program for domestic violence and addiction, Fighting Back Mentors, Passages rehab in Malibu

Selected Testimonials

Jim Aldinger; former Mayor of Manhattan Beach, CA and Chief of Staff at Boeing Aircraft "Susan was a big help in getting me to focus on what I really wanted. She was motivating and positive." Service Category: Personal Coach; year first hired: 2006 Top Qualities: Expert, High Integrity, Creative

“You are a Miracle Worker” Lucille Fuesz, Haxtun CO, after successful family mediation

February 2012: “Within minutes, Susan Allan figured out why I wasn’t getting the results I desired because of my thinking.  She showed me where I needed to put my focus in order to get the results I wanted.  Susan is very easy to work with, non-judgmental, and incredibly insightful.  Within 24 hours, I had an excellent resume and a job interview lined up.  I would highly recommend Susan.  I loved her innate ability to cut to the core of the issues I was having so quickly and gently guide me into the direction I needed to be.  I’m sure she has saved me years of struggle.  I am very grateful for her help.” Kathy Rex, New Albany, OH

“Susan, this really worked! Thank you! My Mom and Dad got along all weekend” SF 7 year old, San Fernando Valley, CA

May 2012: I think of you often with love and gratitude. :) I really appreciate you and all you helped me to accomplish!! Forever grateful, Susan Narum, Arizona

“My advice is, when in doubt; always ask Susan Allan, the Relationship Coach, First! Her advice is spot on; her lessons in Nonviolent communication skills can improve any aspect of your life! She is what we all need and that inner voice we all seek! Thank you, Susan! Your coaching was great with the lawyer today! You gave me credibility and confidence and your advice made all the difference! I followed your guidelines for consultation and research and the attorney in my lawsuit even remarked "That is exactly how it should be done!" You are the best; kudos of thanks. Sincerely, Linea Harvey, New Canaan, CT

March, 2010 "Susan Allan is the consummate professional. She is a trusted friend and I am proud to recommend her and blessed to have found her for myself. They say: “When the student is ready, the Master will appear”. She is a highly skilled coach…a Master. If you can take the heat of examining your life, Susan can coach you to the success you are looking for." Service Category: Personal Trainer Year first hired: 2003 Top Qualities: Great Results, Expert, Good Value David Drake, Florida

“I am so thankful that the doctor I found knew exactly what was my diagnosis, and the blood work confirmed everything. He said in two-three months I will be cured! And apparently there were MANY symptoms that I have been suffering since college. And I am thankful to YOU who allowed me to realize that there was a problem, and it wasn't "in my head" as my father and husband were certain. Things have been great otherwise and I have been using the skills you taught me to create a better environment and life”! Warmest wishes, Rachel P NYC March 2012

 “I am constantly appreciative of what I learned and am learning from you and how it has made a HUGE difference in my life every day.” Update  January 29, 2012

“In the late summer of 2004 my son was living as a homeless person on the streets of San Francisco.  I had just become friends with Susan Allan and she found this to be a unacceptable situation.  She encouraged me to begin thinking in a positive manner that would have my son coming home to live with me and addressing what I feared was a serious drug problem.  Once home I discovered he was addicted to crystal meth.  I was determined to do anything and everything to help him.  I began being coached by Susan to learn a new way of communicating, of listening and speaking. I understood what it was like to live with an addict.  I watched him get into trouble with the law and became his attorney.  I watched as everyone, virtually everyone around us gave up on him.  Whether it was “tough love” or “letting him hit bottom” or “jail was the only way to save him” only Susan believed in me and supported me in finding another way. I practiced Self empathy.  I gave my son Empathy, listened to him, didn’t judge; didn’t give advice, didn’t insert myself into the problem and make it about me.  It was not easy. I was able to support him in finding a 30 day dual diagnosis residential rehab program in Santa Barbara and convince the court to sanction it as part of his diversion/probation.  I was able to help find a 6 to 12 month residential program in Arizona where my son could continue his recovery with the approval and supervision of the court.  He started in early January 2005. On October my son will celebrate 10 months of sobriety. (now 7 years of sobriety) There is light in his eyes. I know that these results would not have been possible without the countless hours of coaching with Susan Allan.  She saved my son’s life.  The skills I have learned and am learning has changed my life.  I use the tools in my work, my family life, my social life, in my very thought process countless time a day.  She is a miracle worker.” Yours truly, Arno Jaffe, Esq. 330 E. Carrillo Santa Barbara, CA 93101 

 “My sessions with Susan have had a profound impact on my life.  She identified the most important issues I was facing and gave me perspective and support.  She helped me deal with and turn around a potentially dangerous situation that seemed impossible to resolve - especially as I was several thousand miles away from the crisis.  Now my eldest son after years of denial and desperate behaviour is attending AA meetings and my other son is facing his addiction to computer games and debt and is working up to 12 hours a day so he can change his life around too. I am forever grateful for Susan's devotion to her path of assisting people with living their best lives and achieving their true potential  and for her dedication to the  teaching of communication skills that truly make a difference” KT Bath, England

"Susan is an amazing woman and an innovator. She made certain that in the midst of divorce all of our families emotional needs were met with peace. She worked closely with me to be sure that I landed on safe ground and treated my former wife with respect and empathy. She helped me accomplish a 50/50 child custody settlement and helped us find the groundwork to successful co-parenting of two young children." Service Category: peaceful divorce settlement Year first hired: 2004 (hired more than once)
Top Qualities: Expert, High Integrity, Creative Steve Garren Los Angeles, CA

2013 Corporate Coaching Packages

Corporate Coaching Rates apply when Allan’s services are utilized by 3 or more employees of a firm, organization, or corporation.

  • Coaching Packages $1900 12 hour-long phone sessions; $300 per hour in person for Sales Meetings, trainings and workshops.
  • You will be calling Susan Allan in California, Pacific Time
  • In-office sessions from Los Angeles to Santa Barbara are without travel surcharge

If your office is located in the Los Angeles to Santa Barbara area you may combine phone and in-person sessions in any Coaching Package, 1 in-person session= the cost of 2 telephone sessions.  Please email for corporate arrangements and for programs that require travel  

  • Worldwide telephone coaching Monday- Friday 9 a.m. -7 p.m. PT and weekends by request and if there is urgency
  • 30 pages of testimonials available
  • Certified mediator of The Los Angeles County Bar Association.
  • Offering The 6 Part Conversation for Sales©, Corporate Mediation, Sales Trainings, Advanced Customer Service©
  • Trained in Compassionate Communication SM, Nonviolent CommunicationSM
  • Certified in Herrmann Brain Dominance™ offered at The Wharton School and at 90% of Fortune Companies
  • Workshops for corporations and groups including Extraordinary Events, Statmon Corporation, Health Action Inc., John Daly International Inc.,  and The Association for Conflict Resolution, the premiere conflict resolution organization in America 

Selected Testimonials

“Susan, I think of you so often and always with such gratitude and affection. You taught me so much in such a short period of time and I continue to use that knowledge in my practice and life. Every time I have another professional success I think of you. Huge hugs and a thousand blessings to you, dear friend. Xoxoox” Emily Gould, Esq. Attorney and Mediator, Founder Empatia Resolutions Montpelier VT

We have received trainings and coaching from Susan Allan for a number of years and have found her Heartspace System© of Communication to be an incredible benefit as we continue to develop our companies and the contribution we make to all our clients. With her Whole-brained™ approach, we have adjusted every area of our business from hiring, management, and the results are apparent in our bottom line. Thank you, Susan, for your commitment to us and to Health Action, Inc and Circle of Life Wellness Coaching. We are also excited that Susan has begun offering a series of Teleseminars to our Wellness Coaches, too.   Dr. Roger Jahnke is founder and CEO of Health Action Inc.; he the co-founder of the National Qigong Assoc  and is the founder and director of training of the Integral Institute of Tai Chi and Qigong and has been a Teacher/Trainer of Qigong at The Omega Institute, Esalen, Kripalu  since 1993. He is the Keynote Speaker for the 2009 National Institute of Health Conference. Rebecca McLean is the founder and director of training of Mind - Body Wellness Coach Training; she is the co-founder and President of the Healer Within Foundation and Rebecca has also been a regular Trainer of Wellness Coaches at the National Wellness Institute, The Omega Institute, Esalen, Kripalu since 2000.

“Being president of a small but ever growing business has proven challenging over the years. I am a creative type, and therefore not always able (or willing…shhhhh!) to focus on business issues that take me away from being my creative self, which is a heck of a lot more fun and inspiring. Wearing the hat of human resources, sales executive, manager, financial planner and then shrink to my growing number of employees was, and is daunting. Running in place became habit, and communication suffered, both with staff, and ultimately even with clients. Then I met Susan Allan: focus; amazing focus. Not only did Susan make a commitment to talk through issues with me, but also with my staff. What I gained has been invaluable. Confronted with a challenge or an obstacle, my first stop is Susan. ‘Here’s the situation’ leads to dialogue that gains me insight, offers me possible solutions, allows me to try out communication styles until I can establish a clear path that leads to non-confrontational conversations with end goals being met in a win/win outcome for all parties involved. Susan is direct, motivating, clear…but more than that, she cares. Every conversation has been supportive. Do I always hear what I want to hear? No. But what I do hear is truth presented to me intelligently and respectfully. I have gained much. My employees have gained much. My business is in a much better place after meeting and working with Susan. Andrea Michaels CEO Extraordinary Events

Testimonials for The Divorce Forum Collaborative Model SM

 “As a member of the Association of Conflict Resolution (ACR) and the Associate Executive Director of the Los Angeles County Bar Association, Dispute Resolution Services Inc., I highly recommend Susan Allan. Susan Allan brings an innovative approach to “Collaborative Divorce Mediation”. Ms. Allan is refreshing in her consumer-friendly approach.  She is a new voice in the collaborative mediation arena and definitely needs to be heard by our membership. Ms. Allan is one of the top leading experts and practitioners in Southern California utilizing collaboration in divorce mediation.  This is a new and growing field. I highly recommend Susan Allan to present at our annual conference.” Deborah A. Thomas, Associate Executive Director, Los Angeles County Bar association, Dispute resolution Service Inc. February 22, 2006

“Susan eliminates barriers, traveling the way of spirit and heart. She allows people to enter that area, and say ‘Yes’ instead of “No”. Susan Allan is the wings people glide on as she brings them through these difficult times seeing through the clear eye of the eagle. She respects their path and their history so that they go forward without their burdens.” Charles R. Quintero, Peacemaker to the Navajo Nations, California certified mediator and arbitrator

“Susan Allan’s unique mediation model adds two new components to traditional mediation. The first is the immediate utilization of a certified divorce financial analyst or CPA specializing in dissolution or CPA in non-divorce issues. With this strategy, mediation time is cut in half as appropriate financial and legal guidelines are offered to both parties. The second is her use of Nonviolent Communication SM which has the mediator “translate” critical and judgmental words into the unmet needs of each party. As I have observed when working with Susan, this allows real compassion to grow in the most challenging of environments.  She has assisted many of my clients to resolve their issues in a sane, economical and timely way.” Deanie Kramer, Certified Mediator and Mediator for Divorce Court Television; President Dispute Resolution Specialists, Inc. and Divorce Resource, Inc. 

”In my 27 years as a Family Law Litigator and Judge Pro-tem and in my 10 years as a Family Law Mediator since then, I have never experienced such a dramatic positive turnaround in a client in such a short period of time. It not only makes my work easier, but it makes it actually enjoyable. At the first mediation session with her husband, she was a victim, distraught, angry, blaming, tearful, into here drama, focused on the past and fearful for her future.  In the second mediation session she was peaceful, focused on the present, with clarity about who and where she was, where she wanted to go and how she was going to get there.  In between sessions she was able to communicate with her husband in a way that brought him to tears.  What happened between sessions?  - - she followed up on my suggestion that she contact Susan Allan and it made all the difference. Thank you so much.”Richard J. Dolwig, Jr.  Family Law Judge pro-tem (Ret.), Cert. Family Law Specialist (Ret.) Attorney and Counselor at Law Mediator and Arbitrator based in Santa Barbara, CA.

The Divorce Forum SM Mediation offers an effective alternative to conventional divorce and its high risk of unnecessary emotional and financial damage. Our mission is to provide skills and support so that people can work together to resolve their disputes while protecting the assets and well-being of the entire family. We offer pragmatic solutions and strategies proven to help minimize the pain, and the wasted time and the money spent on divorce. For many, The Divorce Forum Collaborative Model of mediation can become a part of the healing process which helps families to fulfill their individual and joint needs before moving forward to more peaceful and productive lives. Divorce is one of the most difficult times in life, but is also an opportunity to set the foundation for the future and to learn from the past. We are here to help you. This unique collaborative divorce model, pioneered by certified mediator Susan Allan, includes the following components described below:

To find out if Peaceful Mediation is appropriate for you, call us at   818-314-1200 for a complimentary, confidential conversation to discuss all your relationship options and concerns
Mediators charge an hourly fee that can be shared by both parties in a way that you agree is fair. Although this process may involve the services of mediators, attorneys, and other specialists the costs of a mediated divorce are typically far less costly than conventional divorce. That's because you, and not your attorneys, are doing the talking. When both parties agree to work together toward a common goal and to share expenses, costs - including time, money, and emotional costs – the process is less expensive than those of a contested and therefore litigated, court-directed divorce. Litigated divorce in the state of California cost an average of $30,000 while a mediated divorce may cost a small fraction of this.

Selecting In-Person Mediation or Telephone Mediation

Mediation Package of 12 hour-long telephone sessions may be purchased for $1,400 and for $750 for 6 hour-long telephone sessions.  Susan Allan’s mediation services are billed at $300 per hour for in-person mediation. Most clients enjoy paying for our services through utilizing their online secure payment service or you may use a check or debit or credit card for your payment. All telephone mediation services are pre-paid.

The services of an attorney or paralegal are required to file the mediated agreement that is created by your work with Susan Allan and all mediators. Normally attorneys require less than 3 hours to complete our documents for filing of mediated divorce agreements. Please let us know if you would appreciate referrals for these services.  Please send an email requesting information about mediations requiring air travel.

with Susan Allan

What is the coaching process?
“True discovery consists not in finding new landscapes, but in seeing the same landscape with new eyes.”  Marcel Proust

"We don't see things as they are. We see things as we are.” Anais Nin

Training sessions include the following skill-sets:

  1. Compassionate Communication SM, also known as Nonviolent Communication SM, includes self-empathy, empathy and shifting from self-critical/critical thinking to inner peace for yourself and others.
  2. Role plays using Susan Allan’s Marital Mediation© which develop communication habits and skills to develop unprecedented peaceful conversations, even with war-torn marriages and relationships that have presented long-term challenges.
  3. “41/2 Minutes to Peace” encourages the practice of skills that return you to peace within this limited period of time. By developing this habit, new neural pathways are formed, our quantum field shifts and more peace is generated from within our own inner conversation.
  4. The 4 Questions of Inquiry: This training, based on The Work© of Byron Katie, generates a new habit of pragmatism for those who have the habit of “emotional roller coaster” thinking.  By considering the basis of your “story” and whether there is evidence for it or not; and by training yourself to look for proof instead of pain, you begin to generate more of what you want in your life.
  5. Herrmann Brain Dominance™ Training: An Overview of the 4 Thinking Styles of Humans. Understanding these allows us to:
    • A.   Creating rapport quickly and effortlessly by speaking each person’s “language”.
    • B.   Discovering the needs of the person by understanding where “they are coming from”.  
    • C.   Understanding priorities: Is one person a numbers and dates person; is another wanting warmth and connection? Is another most interested in aesthetics and beauty? Is another only interested in peace and privacy? When there are disagreements, each quadrant has a different response under stress.

Most people never reach their goals; is it because they don’t want to or because they are unclear about the process of creating and reaching goals? Recently, the scientific principles of quantum physics have become available for layman. The principles of quantum physics are similar to the “beliefs” long held to be true by Enlightened Masters of Asia. Whether you are scientific and “left-brained” or spiritual and “right-brained”, my clients have embraced this process of achieving goals.    

1. Clarity of goals: Are you clear about your destination? If not, how may you reach it?  

2. Communication Skills: Are you living on an emotional roller coaster much of the time? When you consider your life; are you thinking about your future in a positive and a negative way, unaware of the effect of your thoughts on your actions?

3. Action skills: Are you moving the action forward or backwards; are you clearly requesting what you need? Do your actions produce the results that you seek? Do you repeat strategies that have been unsuccessful in the past, expecting the results to be different now?

4. Consistency: Do you focus on the same goal every day or do you vacillate? Can you maintain inner peace except for “vacations of pain” of less than 5 minutes at a time? Do all your actions point to reaching your goal or do you often feel confused?

 5. Momentum: Either you increase the velocity with which you approach your goal or you are not; which is most true for you?

6. Resolve: Do you give up before you arrive at your goal? Do you have faith in your abilities and know how to attract the support you need? Do you keep moving or do you check out? Do you criticize yourself for taking the safer route? 

7. Destinations: Do you feel torn about your goals after you create them? Do you attempt to educate yourself by pointing out your failings or do you consider every attempt at a goal as courageous?

The Marriage Forum. Inc.
A 501 C 3 Corp. based in California

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During conversations with Ms. Allan, individuals or couples discover new skills in thinking, listening, speaking and behaving that have been proven to transform even difficult war-torn marriages. Training sessions include Allan's “Marital Mediation”, which enables couples to discover new skills in communication so that they may learn to meet their needs through more successful and peaceful conversations.

When even one partner reaches each new plateau of communication, the relationship transforms. This may be a desirable option for couples who have tried traditional counseling and for partners who feel uncomfortable with the time, financial commitment and diagnosis of illness inherent to therapy.

Sessions may also include a Divorce Education, including all the options available including mediation, and Collaborative Divorce that have been developed by The Divorce Forum, proven to diminish the harsher aspects of litigation. When even one partner reaches each new plateau of communication, the relationship transforms with unprecedented ease and peace .

 Each month millions of readers access Ms. Allan trainings through her columns, and in the media, on radio or television. Ms. Allan offers advice on relationship, marriage and divorce issues, including one free phone session and has offered pro bono answers to thousands of email requests for advice and training. Her private clientele may choose from phone or in-person sessions although the reduced cost of phone sessions is increasingly popular and has been found to be equally effective for clients.

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COACHING with Susan Allan, Certified Mediator, America's leading Divorce Coach, syndicated columnist and relationship expert

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  • Are your concerns premarital, post-marital, pre-divorce, or divorce or post divorce coaching?


" I've been thrilled with the coaching I've gotten from Susan Allan, as well as with the unusually effective tools she has given me to share with clients and colleagues. Susan's unique combination of interpersonal and communication models have supported me through many challenging issues in both my personal and professional life. It has been delightful to find that she has ploughed the road the before me! I have felt a deep connection with Susan since the moment we met and our connection continues to be a rare meeting of heart, mind, and spirit.” -- Lisa-Marie DiVincent, Therapist and Counseling Trainer since 1983.

“With Susan's assistance I learned that what I had believed were honest open attempts on my part to make requests could actually be interpreted more as demands instead. As a result, my partner would often feel guilty if he didn't comply and resentful if he did comply! No wonder his own inner turmoil and conflict caused him to withdraw and separate from me. Now I am learning to integrate both my head and my heart so that both my partner and I can feel heard and truly understood” -- Barb Hepperle M.Sc. Life and Divorce Adjustment Coaching, Canada

“Susan, this session with you has been the most important hour of my life!” -- YA, Irvine

“I got more out of these 2 hours with you about saving my marriage than I have from years with my therapist- thank you, Susan” -- JB Studio City, CA

“Thank you so much for your advice...really need it right now, would love to take you up on the phone coaching session, you seem to have a good grasp on both aspects of my situation. Thank you again for your time, and input...I definitely appreciate it.” -- S Samson Abilene Texas

Susan Allan offers a unique holistic approach to relationships, marriage and divorce. Certified mediator and America's leading divorce coach, Allan is the author of 101 Divorce Secrets, A Survival Guide , video trainings on “How to Avoid Divorce” and “ The 7 Stages of Overcoming Trauma including Divorce” and the upcoming, DIVORCE: The Marry-Go-Round or How to Save Your Money, Your Sanity and Your Life she is a sought-after speaker and guest on television and radio talk shows. Allan writes the "Ask the Divorce Coach" column as well as the "Love, Sex and Relationship" column for newspapers available in 18 Southern California cities. Since 1999, Allan and the Divorce Forum team of experts have offered free advice to more than 4,500 individuals and families as well as providing private coaching to clients throughout The United States and Canada . For a response to your private relationship, marriage or divorce question


  1. Clarify goals +

  2. Enhance Communication Skills
    (are you moving the action forward or backwards) +

  3. Resolve =

  4. All results

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Coaching Topics for Relationships,
Marriage and to Avoid Divorce

  1. Learn Self-Empathy and Empathy from Nonviolent Communication SM and develop communication skills that work!
  2. How to Avoid Divorce & How to Divorce-proof your marriage
  3. Herrmann Brain Dominance™ 4 “thinking styles” and responses to stress
  4. The 7 Stages of Love© and how to reach Stage 7
  5. The 4 Questions of Inquiry
  6. How to Take Your Heart out of "Protective Custody” and find love
  7. The 7 Stages of Life (Panic, Denial, Agony, Rage, Epiphany, Negotiation and Peace)
  8. The difference between Unconditional Love and Unconditional Acceptance
  9. The secret to making a Mind, Body and Spirit connection with your spouse before it is too late
  10. The biggest cause of divorce (hint: it's not money, sex or kids!)
  11. Financial planning before marriage to insure divorce survival
  12. LIFELINES 101 and how to create resolve to attain every goal.

Coaching Topics for Divorce

  1. Learn The 7 Stages Of Divorce© & Learn the 4 Steps to Divorce©
  2. Receive a Divorce Education: Learn all your divorce options: legal, emotional, financial
  3. What do you need to do to get a divorce? timing, legal and financial prep, family issues
  4. Mediation or Litigation? How to turn around difficult situations NOW!
  5. Parenting without pain during and after divorce
  6. How to move through THE 7 STAGES of LIFE to PEACE©
  7. 101 Divorce Secrets, A Survival Guide link to purchase
  8. Divorce as One Path to Enlightenment©

“The most important difference you can make in the world is the difference you can make in yourself. Peace isn't going to find us; we have to find PEACE” -- Susan Allan

Susan Allan's long term objective for Love, Marriage and Divorce Coaching© is to create a paradigm shift in ALL relationships. As the divorce rate approaches 70% in the United State , Ms. Allan has answered the call with a dramatic series of techniques that will develop your listening and speaking skills within just a few hours.

When we want to reconcile is it due to a deep love? Sometimes it is based on our desperation at not finding, “someone better”. When each partner is honest about motives, and about feelings and needs, you will find a partner with whom to create a life that will be peaceful and rewarding.

Depending on your commitment to moving through your emotions to PEACE, you may create a loving life with your current spouse, with your ex or with someone waiting to meet you.

When you take the time to consider ALL your needs and all of your partner's needs, you may begin the strategic planning required to discover Helen Keller's description that “Life is either a great, daring adventure…or nothing.”

  • How does your last relationship poison your future? Learn to complete your healing process whenever and wherever feelings arise.
  • Discover your own and your partner's individual thinking styles with The Hermann Brain Dominance Instrument™
  • Before it's too late, read Ms. Allan's Divorce: the Marry–Go-Round, or How To Save Your Money, Your Sanity or Your Life

"Pain is not a suitable option. Only when we have created meaning for ourselves can we find peace." -- Frank Zizzo, Ph.D.

Why is Susan Allan's Holistic Concept A Breakthrough in Relationship Survival and Healing?

Susan Allan has created a unique form of relationship coaching to address her life commitment to creating a paradigm shift in the divorce rate. Most couples who divorce may experience Steps 1-3. Ms. Allan has discovered repeatedly in her coaching practice that the final and crucial step, Step 4, Healing is missing. If your new relationship is looking familiar and resembling your last marriage what can you do? In Relationship Coaching with Susan Allan, you will learn to practice Self-empathy and make peace with the past.

Step 1. Protection: includes options to promote safety for the spouse and children; legal referrals for Restraining Orders, support for private detectives or body guards or alternative housing and family shelters where necessary

Step 2. Legal measures: offers the network associate referrals including the most successful attorneys, mediators, accountants by area

Step 3. Compromise: proposes and discusses different options for negotiation within the specific divorce scenario.

Step 4. Healing: utilizes revolutionary one-on-one techniques including Unconditional Love of your self and your partner; Self-empathy to reach PEACE.

“As we become aware of our own preferred modes of knowing and sensitive to the preferences of others, we greatly enhance our ability to communicate with the people around us…The potential power and creativity in a marriage between extreme opposites is immense when each spouse accepts the other's differences as being legitimate, stimulating, and enhancing. The process of learning to accept those differences can be very difficult, but the rewards of success are well worth the effort.” From The Creative Brain by Ned Herrmann, inventor of the HBDI, a personalized brain dominance profile

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Who is Susan Allan?

Who Benefits from Relationship Coaching and from Divorce Coaching?

In 2001, 60% of all marriages in America ended in divorce. By the year 2005, 70% of all couples are expected to divorce. Second marriages are even less successful than the first time around and the average length of the American marriage is 7 years.

Susan Allan, Divorce Coach© and founder of The Divorce Forum™ has discovered the cause and the cure for many divorce dilemmas. In her upcoming book, Divorce: The Marry-Go-Round©, Ms. Allan presents strategies and techniques for surviving and healing the trauma of divorce. In fact, her work with clients indicates that divorce can be one path to enlightenment and personal growth.

Ms. Allan is the “Ask The Divorce Coach” columnist in The Tolucan Times syndicated from the San Fernando Valley to Pasadena , California , The Santa Monica Observer in Santa Monica California , and Casa Magazine in Santa Barbara , California . Allan also writes “Ask The Love, Sex and Relationship Coach” and the Ask Aunt Helen columns in Santa Barbara Family Magazine in Santa Barbara , California .

For the last 25 years Ms. Allan has researched the field of interpersonal communication. In 1999 she created The Divorce Forum™ which includes workshops, personal coaching, online counseling, tapes, videos and literature for the purpose of making this strategy available to the general public. Her numerous media interviews have included all major markets from coast to coast.

The value of relationship and divorce coaching has been experienced by husbands, wives, children, families and coworkers. Since divorce affects almost 100% of the population, the benefits of divorce coaching are extensive.


Susan Allan, columnist and founder of The Divorce Forum™, is one of only 15 mediators certified through The Los Angeles County Bar Association's Dispute Resolution Services; and is a popular guest on radio, television and in the media.

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Susan Allan Television Appearances

  • January 23rd 2007 Cox Television in Santa Barbara, CA The Nonviolent Communication Show with Gigi Amour
  • December 26th 2006 Cox Television in Santa Barbara, CA The Nonviolent Communication Show with Gigi Amour
  • December 12th Cox Television in Santa Barbara, CA The Nonviolent Communication Show with Gigi Amour
  • November, 2006 The Montel Williams Show
  • August 22nd- August 27th 2006 Cox Television in Santa Barbara, CA The Nonviolent Communication Show with Gigi Amour
  • Bramble Productions “Marital Mediation”
  • GRB Productions mini-pilot “Save Our Marriage”
  • June 28, 2006 Cox Television in Santa Barbara, CA The Nonviolent Communication Show with Gigi Amour
  • “Up Close” with Anne Hulegard K-Cox Television in TorranceCA
  • Crossballs on Comedy Central.
  • FOX TV NEWS featured SUSAN ALLAN, in “Marry Me” series, debate with Celebrity Divorce Attorney, Raul Felder, Esq.
  • Adelphia Public Access TelevisionHow to Avoid Divorce training with Susan Allan in Agoura Hills, Calabasas, Camarillo, Fillmore, Mission Oaks, Moorpark, Newbury Park, Santa Paula, Santa Rosa, Westlake Village
  • News 12 Connecticut
  • Naked In NY  Talk show
  • News 12 New Jersey

2007 Media Interviews with Susan Allan

  • March:  Women’s World Magazine on Divorce
  • February:  PINK Magazine in the article “Alimony blues” by Betsy Schiffman
  • Beginning December 2006: Ask The Divorce Coach© column is featured at  winner of The Disney Online Newsroom Award from The Disney Co. one of Dr. Phil favorite internet sites
  • Columns at The Tolucan Times, The Santa Monica Observer, Casa Magazine, and Santa Barbara Family Life Magazine.
  • Globe Magazine interviews “Relationship guru, Susan Allan, founder of The Divorce Forum in Santa Barbara”

2007 Radio Interviews with Susan Allan

  •  January 31 The Rick Barber Show 1 a.m. -3 a.m. KOA AM heard in 38 states including Mexico and Canada and on  Rick Barber said, “Susan Allan is smart, funny, and definitely knows what she's talking about. Now I know what happened to me!”
  • January 1, 2:40-3 p.m. local time “The Queen of Fun Show" with Wibitz Stewart, KAOI 1110 AM, Hawaii


  • Throughout the year at Oneness Events as a Deeksha-giver committed to world peace initiated by The Oneness University in Chennai, India.
  • Wednesdays the 1st and 3rd of each month beginning February 7th;  Santa Barbara 6-8 p.m. Compassionate Communication SM  Workshops

2006 Radio Interviews with Susan Allan

  • December 31st with Monsignor Tom Snyderwine 7-8 p.m. EST AM1400 WJET Erie, PA
  • September 20, The Wild Life with Wendy Rees Thursdays from 9-10AM PST at, or visit
  • August 14th 5:10 - 6:00 p.m. The Terry Moore Show C-FAX Newsline P.M.......with Terry Moore   August 9th 5:15 p.m. EST John Maciel   CKWR FM Waterloo, ON Canada. 
  • August 4th 8-8:30 a.m. PST with Bobby D on Supertalk Radio in La Grande, OR 1450 AM KLBM and 1490 AM KBKR
  • July 24th 12:40 p.m. Mary Jane Popp on Popp off! BBS Radio in Sacramento, CA and streaming audio on;; ;  
  • July 24th 7:30 a.m. PST The Maria Sanchez Morning Show on 1590 The Connection in Southern California.  
  • June 29 KQDS FM Red Rock Radio KQ in the Morning with Bill Jones and Jason Manning 7:45 a.m.
  • May 23rd KCSN 88.5 FM 6:30 PM - 7 PM.  Shrink Rap streamed live on or Hosted by Phyllis Chase, MA, MFT
  • May 19th 6 p.m. Ron and Casey Show WKBN Youngstown, OH
  • April 27th KOLE 8 a.m. to 8:30 a.m. 1340 and 1380 AM Fox News with Dominick Brascia in Beaumont TX
  • April 25th Bridging the Parent/Teen Communication Gap:
    How to Listen So Your Teen Will Talk/How to Talk So Your Parent Will Listen
    with Dr. Beth
  • April 20th Bridging the Parent/Teen Communication Gap:
    How to Listen So Your Teen Will Talk/How to Talk So Your Parent Will Listen with Dr. Beth
  • April 4th , with Bernie Ahearn
  • February 22nd 6-7 p.m. EST The Dr. Robyn Show 1490 AM Sarasota, Bradenton, Tampa Bay, FL and streaming audio at
  • February 21st The Third Age with David Debin, Peter Brill and Anne Francis 11-12 a.m. 1290 AM in Santa Barbara, CA 11-12 a.m. PST; and 9-10 p.m. PST
  • February 14th 7-9am EST The Dave and Lisa D. Morning Show WJIM Grand Rapids, Lansing, and Detroit, MI 
  • February 13th 3:06-3:28 p.m. EST Live with Lee with host, Lee Michaels, Preventing another Valentines Day Massacre if you're single, separated or divorced1070 CHOK in Sarnia, Ontario, on the Canada-U.S. border. Southwestern Ontario and Southeastern Michigan.
  • February 10th 9p-12mid PST 1410 AM KERN in Bakersfield, CA from The Trevor Carey Show 
  • February 3rd  8:30 a.m. CST Talk Radio with Lindzey Roseberry and Derek Wolf 1460 AM KKOY in Chanute, KS


  • Throughout the year at Oneness Events as a Deeksha-giver committed to world peace initiated by The Oneness University in Chennai, India.
  • Tuesdays in Santa Barbara6-8 p.m. Compassionate Communication SM  Workshops
  • August; in Cape Cod, MA The National Association of Conflict Resolution (ACR), the preeminent mediation organization in The United States.
  • Passages, the drug rehabilitation facility in Malibu, CA.

2005 Radio Interviews with Susan Allan

Twice Monthly Interview including the last Sunday of each month:

  • 7:30- 7:50 pm EST WGBB 1240 AM with Joe Salzone audio streaming  and in Long Island, NY Nassau; Suffolk counties
  • December 15, WNWS 101.5 FM You Talk with Harrell Carter; Jackson, Memphis and Western TN 10:15-11 p.m. audio streaming at;
  • December 12, 10:15-10:40 EST WTCM 580 AM The Norm Jones Show; in Traverse MI area,
  • December 4th 7:30- 7:50 pm EST WGBB 1240 AM with Joe Salzone audio streaming  and in Long Island, NY Nassau; Suffolk counties
  • December 1, WNWS 101.5 FM You Talk with Harrell Carter; Jackson, Memphis and Western TN 10:15-11 p.m. audio streaming at;
  • November 28th 11pm – midnight EST WGBB 1240 AM with Joe Salzone audio streaming  and in Long Island, NY Nassau; Suffolk counties
  • November 23rd Entercom Radio; 99 WMYX, 103.7 kiss FM, Sportsradio 1250 WSSP with Jon Kurozawa,  Milwaukee WI
  • November 23rd Eagle Radio; 977 WAFL FM "Morning Mess" with Steve West, Milford, DE.
  • November 22nd , 104 AM WKRBE Houston Texas, News with Atom and Maria
  • November 21st 7:50 a.m. 1290 AM WJNO Clear Channel in West Palm Beach
  • November 20th, WBMX 98.5 FM in Boston The Boston Neighborhood Forum
  • November 18th WPOR 101.9 Portland, Maine
  • November 17th 8:40- 8:57 WAMD 970 AM The Breakfast Club with Rick Monick; in Baltimore MD
  • November 16th 8:50 a.m. WPRO AM Providence, RI with Ron St. Pierre and Raina Smith
  • November 16th Juli Ashton Show airtime to be announced
  • November 10th 8:45 a.m. WFGE 103.7 FMM Murray KY area;
  • November 9th 9:10- 9:20 a.m. 101.1 KEYF Morning Show Oldies with Nyla Beck Spokane, WA
  • October 27th Red Rock Radio with Jeanne Ryan
  • October 27, 1:10-1:30 p.m. WCCM 1490 AM “Life Style with Lanie”  in the Boston area audio streaming;
  •  October 9, 7:30- 7:50 pm EST WGBB 1240 AM with Joe Salzone audio streaming  and in Long Island, NY Nassau; Suffolk counties
  • October 6, 8 a.m. WLKG 96.1 FM Sunday Life Matters with Carrie Cokins and Bill Blakely Lake Geneva, WI August 30, Mike Schikman Show 6:30-7p.m. EST 550 AM WSVA Harrisonburg, VA
  • August 18, Rhett Palmer Show South FL;
  • August 7, 7:30- 7:50 pm EST WGBB 1240 AM with Joe Salzone audio streaming  and in Long Island, NY Nassau; Suffolk counties
  • Upcoming in August The Bull Griffin Show Magic 98.9 AM Greenville, SC
  • July 30 4-6 p.m. PST; 7-9 EST Rock Radio streaming audio 
  • July 29th 1:45 p.m. EST Savvy Mommy; The Essential Guide to Parenting Little Ones with Victoria Pericon
  • July 24th 7:30- 7:50 pm EST WGBB 1240 AM with Joe Salzone audio streaming  and in Long Island, NY Nassau; Suffolk counties
  • June 26th 7:30- 7:50 pm EST WGBB 1240 AM with Joe Salzone audio streaming  and in Long Island, NY Nassau; Suffolk counties
  • June 16th 7:45-7:55 PST live at  KSAC AM 1240 in the Nevada area and KAHI AM 950 repeating from 2- 11 p.m. PST The Mary Jane Popp Show, “Popp Off!” also available at,;
  • June 2nd The Mike and Chris Show in New Zealand!
  • May 9th CRFB News Talk Radio with Jim Richards Toronto, Canada 1010 AM  9-9:30 p.m. EST streaming audio at
  • May8th 7:30- 7:50 pm EST WGBB 1240 AM with Joe Salzone audio streaming  and in Long Island, NY Nassau; Suffolk counties
  • May 6th New Orleans WRKF 89.3 FM 9 – 9:30 a.m. EST The Jim Engster Show
  • May 2nd 8 a.m. CST KSGF 104.1 FM/1260 AM Vincent David Jericho Show in Springfield and the Branson Missouri area;
  • April 24th 7:30- 7:50 pm EST WGBB 1240 AM with Joe Salzone audio streaming  and in Long Island, NY Nassau; Suffolk counties
  • April 23rd 12:10 midnight EST KFRB in Toronto “Love and Romance” with Sue McGarvie across Canada  
  • April 21st 9-9:30 a.m. CST “Community Corner with Chris Kodiak”  KIND Radio 1010 AM South East Kansas
  •  April 11th 7:15-7:45 a.m. PST  with Richard Kaffenberger on two stations, KAAA & KZZZ.  KAAA serves Northern Arizona out of Kingman and KZZZ serves the Tri-state area of CA-NV-AZ out of the Bullhead City-Laughlin area. 
  • January 20th 9:30-10 a.m. EST Speaking of Everything with John Forsythe in the Philadelphia, PA and Southern New Jersey area
  • January 19th 10:05 -10:45 a.m. The Jim Cate’s Show KMAJAM 1440 Topeka Kansas
  • Jan. 2 2005 7:30- 7:50 pm EST WGBB 1240 AM with Joe Salzone audio streaming  and in Long Island, NY including Nassau and Suffolk counties


  • Tuesdays in Santa Barbara6-8 p.m. Compassionate Communication SM  Workshops
  • Wednesday in July at the Center for the HeartChurch in Santa Barbara, CA
  • July Pasadena Police Department Summer Youth Leadership Conference, PasadenaCA (By invitation Only)


Globe Magazine November 22nd issue Scott and Laci Peterson Article, quoted on page 30 and 31 “Relationship guru, Susan Allan, founder of The Divorce Forum in Santa Barbara, tells Globe …”

2004 RADIO INTERVIEWS with Susan Allan

  • December 23rd 5:15-6p.m. EST Cumulus Radio WICC 600 AM Bridgeport , Brian Smith News and Variety Show CT area
  • April 24th 7:30- 7:50 pm EST WGBB 1240 AM with Joe Salzone audio streaming  and in Long Island, NY Nassau; Suffolk counties
  • December 19th 7:40- 7:50 pm EST WGBB 1240 AM with Joe Salzone audio streaming  and in Long Island, NY Nassau; Suffolk countiesDecember 18th 9:40-10 p.m. EST LOVE TALK USA, with Co-Hosts, Jade & Chris, Call-in #888-205-2263 on over 30 radio affiliates across the country including, Hawaii and Newfoundland, Canada
  • December 16th Cumulus Radio WICC 600 AM Bridgeport , Brian Smith News and Variety Show CT area
  • December 15th 1420 WCED NEWSTALK RADIO 8:35- 9 a.m. EST Dubois PA area
  • November 19th KOTARapid CityIowa9:20-10 a.m. “ In Focus”
  • November 17th KRLC AM in Lewiston, Idaho11:30 -12 noon with Gene and Brian
  • November 9th 9-10 p.m. EST Women’s Speak Out with Libba Halevey WERA Talk Radio 1300 AM Ohio
  • November 5th 6 to 6:30 EST WGBB-AM1240 The Bonnie D. Graham Show on Long Island, NY streaming audio
  • November 2nd; Playboy Radio with Juli Ashton and Tiffany Granath 4 p.m.-7 p.m. PST and  available on the web at
  • October 19 Dr. Robyn Show
  • October 12th 7-7:30 a.m. on KKXX Morning Rock with JD and Rocky Bakersfield, CA
  • October 9th 10:15 - 10:30 PM EST LOVE TALK USA, with Co-Hosts, Jade & Chris, Call-in #888-205-2263 on over 30 radio affiliates across the country including, Hawaii and Newfoundland, Canada
  • October 7th KMVX 102.9 FM MIX 103 9:30-9:45 a.m. Twin Falls, ID   Branden and Karla Morning Show and
  • October 6th 9:30- 11 a.m. PST available on the web at http: Blunt with Rich & Marla Renegade Talk Radio!
  • October 5th week The Morning Show with Jillian on KEEZ-FM in Mankato, Minnesota
  • September 28th CJAD 800 in Montreal 10:10-10:57 p.m. EST PASSION with Dr. Laurie Betito
  • September 27th September 27th KTRS St. Louis The Scott St. James Show 10:20 to 10:50 AM and on
  • September 25th Saturday KHNC 1360 AM,1:30 -2 p.m. MST Dr. Anthony Cichoke Show in Colorado and Southern Wyoming and worldwide at
  • September 23rd Thursday 5:53- 6:25 a.m. PST KEST 1450 a.m. and simulcast on in San Francisco and The Bay Area
  • September 8th 6:05-6:30 p.m. KVTA RADIO 1520 AM Bill Defoi Show in Ventura, CA
  • August 13th 3-4 p.m.  PST;  6-7 EST CFAX RADIO 1070 online NEWSLINE P.M WITH TERRY MOORE Live in Victoria, British Columbia
  • August 11th 9:20 - 10:00 a .m.  CDT KOTA RADIO 1380 a.m. Focus with Bob Laskowski heard in Radid City, S. Dakota and western South Dakota; simulcast at www.
  • August 7th  Saturday 11-11:25 a.m. EST WNJC 1360 AM and simulcast at  with Lee Schwartz from Philadelphia to Atlantic City, NJ
  • July 31st 10:15-10:30 p.m. EST “The Love Doctor” with Jade D'Amico and simulcast at
  • July 28 5:10-5:30 PST; 8:10-8:30 EST CFAX RADIO 1070 online  NEWSLINE P.M WITH TERRY MOORE Live in Victoria, British Columbia  June 26th 9:15 - 9:30 PM EST “LOVE TALK USA”, with Co-Hosts, Jade & Chris,
    Call-in #888-205-2263 on over 30 radio affiliates across the country including, Hawaii and Newfoundland, Canada.
  • April 12, The Rick Barber Show 1 a.m. -3 a.m. KOA AM heard in 38 states including Mexico and Canada and on  Rick Barber said, “Susan Allan is smart, funny, and definitely knows what she's talking about. Now I know what happened to me!”
  • March 29th The Bev Smith Show 12-2 a.m. EST American Urban Radio Networks 1230 in 31 major cities
  • February 7th 2:02-3:00 PST KTIP The Mimi Stoneburner Show Northern California
  • February 4th Jeanne Kane Show 7:05-7:20 CST Duluth , MN
  • February 3rd Playboy Radio Satellite XM205 7-10 a.m. PST
  • February 2nd Playboy Radio Satellite XM205 4-7 p.m. PST
  • January 22nd  8:05am EST Bobby Lane Show, 103.3 WKVS-FM Lenoir , NC
  • January 13, "The Talk of Rapid City " with Don Grant 1380 KOTA 9:15 MST Rapid City , SD

MEDIA PRAISE for The Divorce Forum and The Marriage Forum founder, Susan Allan:

Seen on “FOX MORNING NEWS”, and "Crossballs, The Debate Show" on Comedy Central "Susan Allan is a rising star in the relationship advice arena."-- Bart Coleman, Producer, Crossballs

"You were fabulous; as evidenced by your stellar performance. What more can I say?" Mark Green, FLASHPOINT, Cox Cable TV Santa Barbara, CA

WNTN Boston Radio Host Sybil Tonkongy says: "I've read a lot of divorce self-help books and they're a bunch of baloney-Susan speaks the truth."

"Susan Allan brings understanding, common sense and a touch of humor to the difficult issue of divorce" -- Patricia Reuter, producer, Viewpoints

"Susan Allan is a joy to interview. Her enthusiasm, sincerity and knowledge made my hour long show fly by with lots of good listener questions. Susan had plenty of useful tips backed by a great web site. Anyone facing divorce or in the healing process needs to bookmark and tell the world about her web site. Look out cupid, this dynamo is out to make sure your arrow flies true! Cheers. -- Mimi Stoneburner; Host, Body Talk K-TIP Radio

“Susan Allan was witty, informative, and provocative. She was a splendid guest and I look forward to the second interview.” Libba Halevey Women’s Speak Out WERA Talk Radio 1300 AM Ohio.