Santa Monica Observer October 9, 2003
As seen in The Santa Monica Observer Weekly
ASK THE DIVORCE COACH©, SUSAN ALLAN
FOR RICHER FOR POORER
Did your marriage vows include “for richer; for poorer”? If your reverend said them; did you understand what they meant? Did you hear the word “obey” and ignore that, too? If your spouse was paying attention; heard you agree and now you've changed your mind; what is your strategy to negotiate your divorce? Sometimes the cause of divorce is a simple financial disagreement. Often, when peaceful strategies are not discovered before or during marriage, clients must discover them during or after the divorce. When children are involved, financial issues may arise for-EVER.
Most couples do not understand that most LA divorces are based on negotiation according to Mark Patt, Esq., managing partner of Trope and Trope, Los Angeles' largest family law firm. This negotiation may result from the two attorneys; from the couple or from the judge demanding it. Often, my new clients did not understand their options, made unworkable agreements and are seeking to reverse stipulations. My first advice is; consult a dissolution financial expert before you discuss divorce.
Slater, Divorce Financial Planner from NYCC suggests: “F inancial
decisions that clients make in divorce are often the
most important financial decisions they will make. During
negotiations, they help clients evaluate settlement proposals
and suggest alternatives. By understanding the financial
issues, individuals become empowered to make decisions
to complete their divorce.
Dear Divorce Coach,
In 2000 my mother and I bought a house which hubby and I live in. Now we are separated (I stayed in the house). He wants to reconcile, I'm not sure what I want. If and when we decide to get a divorce, what, if any, portion of the house is he entitled to.
“ Prior to marriage the parties should understand
Before or during divorce, financial planners are essential but before marriage, explaining the future, they can be worth their weight…in GOLD!
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