Santa Monica Observer August 18, 2002
ASK THE DIVORCE COACH©, SUSAN ALLAN
you aware that "since 1972, millions of children each year have
lived through the divorce of their parents"? (from Breaking
Up is Easy To Do by Brian Willats) In addition, according to The
Abolition of Marriage by Maggie Gallagher, "among the millions
of children who have seen their parents divorce, one of every 10 will
also live through three or more parental marriage breakups."
I am at a crossroads; my husband and I have three sons. Their father is so tough with them. We have been married for 10 years. I feel so miserable and frightened. He controls the money, US, everything! I don't want to make it worse for my children. I am afraid of breaking up this marriage to enter something unknown. What should I do?
I have been married for 17 years. I know that the "D" word is coming; we have 3 children. I thought my marriage would last and I love my wife but I guess it's true; nothing is forever. I don't know the first step to take; I'm afraid I'll lose everything. Can you please advise me?
you so much for realizing that you are "at a loss" and for
contacting me before making crucial decisions. You may feel worried
because your needs for financial and emotional safety are not being
fulfilled. This is what most of us have felt as we contemplated divorce.
I advise these first steps:
The Divorce Coach©
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Susan Allan COO of The Divorce Forum